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No New Friends?

Over the past few weeks, I’ve had the experience, whether it was good or bad- not quite sure yet!  of seeing who were my real friends and who weren’t. Now, this can be such a good thing being delivered to you in the shittiest of packages but let’s be real- nobody wants to open a shitty package! But nevertheless, it has happened and here I am face to face with it all.

As a teenager growing up, that’s when you have the most friends. At this point in life is when people have the most in common. Everybody’s interests are basically the same so it’s quite easy to befriend everyone.

Once you get to adulthood however, it’s quite different. Everyone’s interests are no longer the same and everyone goes on their own paths which may or may not include you. The friends you choose to keep however, are the ones you would usually take with you through the rest of your life. They would be there when you get married, for the birth of your kids, for every birthday and the list goes on. These friends would be the foundation of your sanity. So choose them wisely!

Very often we tend to make the mistake of placing one or two people in there with our forever friends. Don’t be fooled by the ones that pretend to have your best interest compared to the ones who actually do. When you become an adult, that’s when the reality of the categories of friends and associates becomes a necessity.

Think about it, adulthood is the serious part of your life where you tend to only focus your energy on career and family, not drama. So keep it clean, keep it classy and choose wisely!

 

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The True Test Of Being Engaged…

Want to know if you can REALLY spend the rest of your life with your partner? GET ENGAGED!

Despite being one of the happiest and most exciting moments of your life and your relationship, it can also be one of the most trying. From the time you get engaged, you’re over the moon, on cloud 9 and can’t wait to tell everyone the big news. You and your partner have basically entered honeymoon phase all over again. You are head over heels in love and can’t wait to spend the rest of your lives with each other – it’s everything out of a movie and it is perfect!

So where does the true test come in? Well, fast forward a few months and welcome to the real test!

Remember all those idiosyncrasies in your partner you thought were so cute for well… the entirety of your relationship? Would they still be so adorable when faced with it every single day for the rest of your life? What about the silly little things you argue about? Would you be willing to keep having silly arguments forever? What about their friends? What about their long or sometimes too short work hours? What about their ambition or lack of? Maybe they nag, maybe they have a hot temper…

Being engaged is a period that can either make or break your relationship with your future spouse. Your entire relationship is placed under a magnifying glass at this point! Would you be willing to go through your entire life dealing with what may have seemed like harmless problems before? This is one of the reasons why some couples do not make it past their engagements.  At this point you no longer consider your partner to be expendable. Now, because they are seen in a more permanent light, the question of “can I spend the rest of my life with this person?” becomes a more serious one because once you say those two magical words, that’s it!

In my opinion I feel like it’s more beneficial to be engaged for at least a year just so you go into your marriage well prepared. You’ll be surprised what that year or two can teach you about your partner, yourself and life.

If you’re a bride like me who still loves all her fiancé’s quirks…the many he has 😀 , then you’ve already started on the right path. But if you’re still struggling with accepting them as part of your life forever, don’t worry just take some time to yourself and you’ll be okay. Remember why you fell for them in the first place 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

Being A Girl Boss In This World And Finding Your Own Tribe

We are all familiar with Beyoncé’s “Who runs the world? GIRLS!” right? Well, this is for every woman who is trying to break through on her own and do her own thing.

Us women have to inspire and support each other because that is what’s going to help us grow as individuals as well as grow our businesses. We have to find like-minded people  who can connect, understand and inspire us, who we are and who we are trying to become.

When you’re trying to build a business from the ground up, it can be really taxing to have to explain yourself and your new ideas or dreams to those closest to you because they just don’t get it! Who really has the time for that nonsense? This is where your Girl Boss Tribe comes in! Find mentors or those who are in the same situation as you, those who are now trying to break through on their own, those who are just as shy, nerve wracked and stressed as you! Find them! Befriend them!

By nature, us women are very strong, intelligent, resilient and powerful beings. We are focused and committed when we need to be and these qualities are exactly what emanates when it comes to our businesses.  That’s what makes a great foundation for whatever we are trying to build. And that is exactly what will take us to the top! Along with our little tribe of course!

You cannot constantly surround yourself with people who are not on the same page as you in this life, nor those who are unable to support, drive or inspire you. Step out of your comfort zone and create a support system that works for you. This support system will take you places you’ve never been before. It will help elevate your life, career – everything!

Be a Girl Boss because you’ve found something you’re good at and something you love to do, run with it and create a legacy!

Find your Tribe because when things get tough, you’re gonna need that support. Sometimes you just need your girls with wine glasses in hands and a box of pizza on the table in front of you. They’d understand the struggles of troublesome clients, slow days, long days and days of no sleep because guess what? They’re either going through the same damn thing or have done so before and can offer you the world of advice to get you where you need to be!

It’s tough being a Girl Boss, but it’s worth it! ❤

Now put on some lipstick and go take over the world!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feeling Inspired When You Lose Motivation…

Let’s face it, we all lose motivation at some point in time. There are days when you wake up and you can hardly wait to go conquer the world. I’ve had about a month straight of those days. I felt so inspired every morning that I would feel like a force that needed to be reckoned with. Then, I went on vacation and got caught up in other things, losing sight of my goals and progress. Once you get to a point of relaxation, I find it very difficult to pull yourself out of it and get back to your regularly scheduled program.

Do not allow yourself to get stuck in an unproductive rot. This can be very dangerous for obvious reasons, especially if you are like me and in the process of building a business from the ground up. This means that your attention needs to be focused on your business 100% of the time! My business requires me to constantly be active on social media and to constantly market myself and my services. Without this, there is no business! Without business, there is no money and without money, there is no life- let’s be real!

Here are some tips that can help you get back to your beautiful, inspired self once again:

  1. Remind yourself why you got into your hobbies or field of work in the first place. I usually look at YouTube videos or Instagram accounts of my favorite makeup artists for some inspiration. Doing this tends to reawaken the passion I have for my art and my skill as a makeup artist. It can also aid in giving you fresh, new ideas if you happen to be stuck in a creative rot.
  2. Ensure your work space and environment is best suited for productivity. “There is a direct correlation between an increased sphere of comfort and getting what you want”- Timothy Ferriss. Look around your room or your workspace. Does it inspire you? Does it give you motivation? Is it peaceful and soothing? Is it quiet or loud? Is it distracting? Sometimes the hardest thing we do to ourselves is work in a place that we know is going to have us produce mediocre results. Build your ideal workplace and choose your ideal work time. What works for some, may not work for others. So don’t worry if you choose to work at 2am when your spouse and family are asleep. Do what you need to do to get to where you need to be.
  3. Don’t over-work yourself! Take a break, recharge, then continue with a fresh mind. This way, you feel motivated for longer.
  4. Remind yourself what you are trying to accomplish, set goals, set timelines and remember why you are doing it.  This will surely jolt you into action once again!

And don’t worry, it happens to the best of us. You are great at what you do! So take a breather, drink some tea, eat some cake and get back to it! 🙂

Hope these tips help!

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When On Vacation…….

For the past month I have been on vacation and thus have not been working on my blog nor any other projects that require my attention. To me, work and vacation just do not go hand in hand as much as I would like it too! I actually came on vacation with the intention of getting some work done but as time went by and activities started filling my days, all work went “bye-bye” out the window. I think, for one to be able to get work done whilst being on vacation, they ought to have a strict sense of responsibility, determination and self motivation. I thought I embodied these traits! But from this experience, I am seeing that I clearly need to work on some things!

I have found it to be extremely difficult to be inspired, motivated and diligent when being faced with the hot sun, a cold Starbucks, shopping, exploring and spending time with my family. Some days I think, where has the time gone! I suppose I ought to feel good about the intent of getting the work done. But on the other hand, I haven’t actually gone through with it so who am I really kidding here?

But without further ado, I am back at it!

To be successful at anything in this life, you need commitment, self motivation and a “no excuses” type of attitude. Once you adopt these traits, you’ll be fit to completely obliterate your goals and be ready to establish and realize new ones.

Feel free to let me know how you balance work and vacation! 🙂

A New Look Never Hurt Anyone!

For some time, I’ve found that my old blog site “thebeautyandlifestylecorner” needed a makeover and some vamping up. Don’t get me wrong, it has been a trooper since first being published but let’s be honest here, if you want to have a successful blog then esthetics is important! People will not be heading to your site if it isn’t esthetically pleasing to them. I also found that my previous name limited my writing and creativity. I felt as though I placed myself in a tiny box where I was only allowed to write about beauty and or lifestyle. Of course, at that point in time I didn’t think of it that way and although I will still be mostly focusing on these topics, I will not be limiting myself to them.

Selecting a name sets the tone for what type of blog you’ll be sharing with the world. So take some time and mull it over before diving head first. The name you decide to choose should be associated in some way with what you intend to write about. That way, readers already get a sense of what your blog is about before clicking on it.

Always be open to reassess and revamp your page when you feel  it needs it. Nothing is constant and everything changes especially technology and trends, so you must be prepared to change along with it. This keeps you on your A- game! 😉

 

Hope you enjoy the new look!

 

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Is It Worth It?

As a makeup artist and beauty enthusiast, how is one to keep up to date with all the new eyeshadow palettes that are being launched every 5 minutes? I mean, are we supposed to run out and nab them all? As an artist, you feel as though it’s your prerogative to do exactly that! You feel as though you must have the latest products, you must test everything, you must be fully equipped to show your clients that you’re are on top of your game!

However, a lot of the eyeshadow palettes that are being launched today are very similar in shades. You will find shades like burgundy, a soft brown intended to be a transition color, a light orange and more than likely a couple gold tone shimmery shades. Granted, the palettes will differ in texture and pigmentation,  but is it necessary to purchase all, given that they are so similar? Will I be missing out if I don’t? This has become my new plight!

Hypothetically, let’s say you’ve finally gone out and purchased the latest and most popular palettes, these have been trending for the past 2 months and you’ve finally got your hands on them! Life is good and then “BOOM!” here come another 3 palettes!  What should you do now? The reviews are even better than the last set! You see my predicament?

My advice here, would be to select the palettes that have the majority of shades you work with on a daily basis. That way, you get your money’s worth and you still indulge in the latest editions. Go to the store, test it and select the one that works best for you. Steer clear from purchasing other palettes that are similar to what you’ve already got, unless your current one is running low.

Hope this helps! 🙂 Saving money and space at the same time!

 

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