Over the past few weeks, I’ve had the experience, whether it was good or bad- not quite sure yet! of seeing who were my real friends and who weren’t. Now, this can be such a good thing being delivered to you in the shittiest of packages but let’s be real- nobody wants to open a shitty package! But nevertheless, it has happened and here I am face to face with it all.
As a teenager growing up, that’s when you have the most friends. At this point in life is when people have the most in common. Everybody’s interests are basically the same so it’s quite easy to befriend everyone.
Once you get to adulthood however, it’s quite different. Everyone’s interests are no longer the same and everyone goes on their own paths which may or may not include you. The friends you choose to keep however, are the ones you would usually take with you through the rest of your life. They would be there when you get married, for the birth of your kids, for every birthday and the list goes on. These friends would be the foundation of your sanity. So choose them wisely!
Very often we tend to make the mistake of placing one or two people in there with our forever friends. Don’t be fooled by the ones that pretend to have your best interest compared to the ones who actually do. When you become an adult, that’s when the reality of the categories of friends and associates becomes a necessity.
Think about it, adulthood is the serious part of your life where you tend to only focus your energy on career and family, not drama. So keep it clean, keep it classy and choose wisely!
Want to know if you can REALLY spend the rest of your life with your partner? GET ENGAGED!
Despite being one of the happiest and most exciting moments of your life and your relationship, it can also be one of the most trying. From the time you get engaged, you’re over the moon, on cloud 9 and can’t wait to tell everyone the big news. You and your partner have basically entered honeymoon phase all over again. You are head over heels in love and can’t wait to spend the rest of your lives with each other – it’s everything out of a movie and it is perfect!
So where does the true test come in? Well, fast forward a few months and welcome to the real test!
Remember all those idiosyncrasies in your partner you thought were so cute for well… the entirety of your relationship? Would they still be so adorable when faced with it every single day for the rest of your life? What about the silly little things you argue about? Would you be willing to keep having silly arguments forever? What about their friends? What about their long or sometimes too short work hours? What about their ambition or lack of? Maybe they nag, maybe they have a hot temper…
Being engaged is a period that can either make or break your relationship with your future spouse. Your entire relationship is placed under a magnifying glass at this point! Would you be willing to go through your entire life dealing with what may have seemed like harmless problems before? This is one of the reasons why some couples do not make it past their engagements. At this point you no longer consider your partner to be expendable. Now, because they are seen in a more permanent light, the question of “can I spend the rest of my life with this person?” becomes a more serious one because once you say those two magical words, that’s it!
In my opinion I feel like it’s more beneficial to be engaged for at least a year just so you go into your marriage well prepared. You’ll be surprised what that year or two can teach you about your partner, yourself and life.
If you’re a bride like me who still loves all her fiancé’s quirks…the many he has 😀 , then you’ve already started on the right path. But if you’re still struggling with accepting them as part of your life forever, don’t worry just take some time to yourself and you’ll be okay. Remember why you fell for them in the first place 🙂