Adulting! It’s that time!

When you’re almost to your thirties, your entire life changes but you love every second of it!

At this point in your life, your priorities change, your lifestyle changes and how you decide to spend your time also changes.

You enjoy being in bed by 10 pm with some hot chocolate, laying down and watching a good series or even reading a good book.

What you tend to focus your energy on are what will benefit you and bring you happiness throughout your adulthood. You tend to focus on your family, your career, your spirituality and financial stability.

You refuse to make wiggle room for anything meaningless!

Things that used to bring you enjoyment in your teens and early twenties, no longer do so. Going out every weekend is no longer desirable to you, getting drunk and getting home at 7am seems completely preposterous now. You would much rather stay in, cuddle with your man, watch movies and eat snacks. If this brings you pure happiness, then why deviate? This has really become my favorite pastime!

You no longer have the time nor the energy for mediocre drama, pointless conversations nor dead end relationships. You soon begin to realize that your energy is something very pure and sacred and what you choose to invest it in turns out to be more than just attention paid. What you focus on attracts exactly that. For instance, if you focus on that negative relationship your friend has with some guy/girl and you listen to the problems time after time, you start to absorb that energy without even realizing it. You have now adopted those issues as your own. You now find yourself feeling all she or he is feeling. Am i right? You may even dislike the person without even meeting them!

As you get older, you begin to appreciate what is really important in this life and what’s worth putting your time and energy into. Learn to be selfish! It will be the best gift you can ever give yourself! Trust me!

Happy Adulting! xx

 

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Gone too long

Okay, i must admit. It’s been quite ridiculous that I’ve been MIA for so long! I have taken a much need break from blogging simply because i needed some time to catch my breath. Honestly I write when something truly drives and excites me, otherwise it just feels pointless and fake. For the past month or so I hadn’t felt the excitement I once did and I felt so uninspired that I just did what I felt was the right thing and stopped writing for a bit. I was also pretty focused on a few work related projects and that took a lot of my time and energy. But nonetheless i am back now and ready for action!

Hope you missed me! ūüôā

 

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No New Friends?

Over the past few weeks, I’ve had the experience, whether it was good or bad- not quite sure yet! ¬†of seeing who were my real friends and who weren’t. Now, this can be such a good thing being delivered to you in the shittiest of packages but let’s be real- nobody wants to open a shitty package! But nevertheless, it has happened and here I am face to face with it all.

As a teenager growing up, that’s when you have the most friends. At this point in life is when people have the most in common. Everybody’s interests are basically the same so it’s quite easy to befriend everyone.

Once you get to adulthood however, it’s quite different. Everyone’s interests are no longer the same and everyone goes on their own paths which may or may not include you. The friends you choose to keep however, are the ones you would usually take with you through the rest of your life. They would be there when you get married, for the birth of your kids, for every birthday and the list goes on. These friends would be the foundation of your sanity. So choose them wisely!

Very often we tend to make the mistake of placing one or two people in there with our forever friends. Don’t be fooled by the ones that pretend to have your best interest compared to the ones who actually do. When you become an adult, that’s when the reality of the categories of friends and associates becomes a necessity.

Think about it, adulthood is the serious part of your life where you tend to only focus your energy on career and family, not drama. So keep it clean, keep it classy and choose wisely!

 

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The True Test Of Being Engaged…

Want to know if you can REALLY spend the rest of your life with your partner? GET ENGAGED!

Despite being¬†one of the happiest and most exciting moments of your life and your relationship, it can also be one of the most trying. From the time you get engaged, you’re over the moon, on cloud 9 and can’t wait to tell everyone the big news. You and your partner have basically entered honeymoon phase all over again. You are head over heels in love and can’t wait to spend the rest of your lives with each other – it’s everything out of a movie and¬†it is perfect!

So where does the true test come in? Well, fast forward a few months and welcome to the real test!

Remember all those idiosyncrasies in your partner you thought were so cute for well… the entirety of your relationship? Would they still be so adorable when faced with it every single day for the rest of your life? What about the silly little things you argue about? Would you be willing to keep having silly arguments forever? What about their friends? What about their long or sometimes too short work hours? What about their ambition or lack of? Maybe they nag, maybe they have a hot temper…

Being engaged is a period that can either make or break your relationship with your future spouse. Your entire relationship is placed under a magnifying glass at this point!¬†Would¬†you be willing to go through your entire life dealing with what may have seemed like harmless problems before? This is one of the reasons why some couples do not make it past their engagements.¬† At this point you no longer consider your partner to be expendable. Now, because they are seen in a more permanent light, the question of “can I spend the rest of my life with this person?” becomes a more serious one because¬†once you say those two magical words, that’s it!

In my opinion I feel like it’s¬†more beneficial¬†to be engaged for at least a year just so you go into your marriage well prepared. You’ll be surprised¬†what that year or two can teach you about your partner, yourself and life.

If you’re a bride like me who still loves all¬†her fianc√©’s quirks…the many he has ūüėÄ , then you’ve already started on the right path. But if you’re still struggling with accepting them as part of your life forever, don’t worry just take some time to yourself and you’ll be okay. Remember why you fell for them in the first place ūüôā

 

 

 

 

 

 

Being A Girl Boss In This World And Finding Your Own Tribe

We¬†are all familiar with¬†Beyonc√©’s “Who runs the world? GIRLS!” right? Well,¬†this is for every woman who is trying to break through on her own and do her own thing.

Us women have to inspire and support each other because that is what’s going to help us grow as individuals as well as grow our businesses. We have to find like-minded people¬† who can connect, understand and inspire us, who we are and who we are trying to become.

When you’re trying to build a business from the ground up, it can be really taxing to have to explain yourself and your new ideas or dreams to¬†those closest to you¬†because they just don’t get it! Who really has the time for that nonsense? This is where your Girl Boss Tribe comes in! Find mentors or those who are in the same situation as you, those who are now trying to break through on their own, those who are just as shy, nerve wracked and stressed as you! Find them! Befriend them!

By nature, us¬†women are very strong, intelligent,¬†resilient and powerful¬†beings. We are focused and committed when we need to be and these qualities are exactly what emanates when it comes to our businesses.¬† That’s what makes a great foundation for whatever we are trying to build. And that is exactly what will take us to the top! Along with our little tribe of course!

You cannot constantly surround yourself with people who are not on the same page as you in this life, nor those who are¬†unable to support, drive or¬†inspire you. Step out of your comfort zone and create a support system that works for you. This support system will take you places you’ve never been before. It will help elevate your life, career – everything!

Be a Girl Boss because you’ve found something you’re good at and something you love to do, run with it and create a legacy!

Find your Tribe because when things get tough, you’re gonna need that support. Sometimes you just need your girls with wine glasses in hands and a box of pizza on the table in front of you. They’d understand the struggles of troublesome clients, slow days, long days and days of no sleep because guess what? They’re either¬†going through the same damn thing or have done so before and can offer you the world of advice to get you where you need to be!

It’s tough being a Girl Boss, but it’s worth it! ‚̧

Now put on some lipstick and go take over the world!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just Sprinkle A Little Glitter Everywhere You Go

Recently, we have been seeing one of the most recent and most¬†popular trends in the beauty industry- Glitter! Who doesn’t want to vamp up their look with a little sparkle? From red carpets to runways to YouTube sensations, it seems like everyone has jumped on this glitter train and who can really blame them?

To create any look using glitter, one must possess at least two products in one’s makeup arsenal:

  1. An all purpose glitter glue. I recently got my hands on the NYX Glitter Primer– This formula is light and creamy and serves the purpose of keeping every speck of glitter right where it’s supposed to be. I used this primer as a base for creating a glitter liner cut crease and it worked most successfully. I love the consistency and the formula as it does not get tacky nor clumpy when trying to apply. For me, this is definitely a keeper!

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  1. Glitter! Duh! For the look I created I used Inglot AMC Pure Pigment eyeshadow in 115. This shade is the prettiest shade of light pink, iridescent with a hint of gold. I am absolutely in  love with it! You can use this pigment to top off eyeshadow in cases where you need a little more pop or you can create your own glitter liner as I did. Either way, it works beautifully!

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Once you’ve¬†got these two products in under you sleeve, you’re already on your way to creating any glitter look!

 

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Feeling Inspired When You Lose Motivation…

Let’s face it, we all lose motivation at some point in time. There are days when you wake up and you can hardly wait to go conquer the world. I’ve had about a month straight of those days. I¬†felt so inspired every morning that I would feel like a force that needed to be reckoned with. Then, I went on vacation and got caught up in other things, losing sight of my goals and progress. Once you get to a point of relaxation, I find it very difficult to pull yourself out of it and get back to your regularly scheduled program.

Do not allow yourself to get stuck in an unproductive¬†rot. This can be very dangerous for obvious reasons, especially if you are like me and in the process of building a business from the ground up. This means that your attention needs to be focused on your business 100% of the time! My business requires me to constantly be active on social media and to constantly market myself and my services. Without this, there is no business! Without business, there is no money and without money, there is no life- let’s be real!

Here are some tips that can help you get back to your beautiful, inspired self once again:

  1. Remind yourself why you got into your hobbies or field of work in the first place. I usually look at YouTube videos or Instagram accounts of my favorite makeup artists for some inspiration. Doing this tends to reawaken the passion I have for my art and my skill as a makeup artist. It can also aid in giving you fresh, new ideas if you happen to be stuck in a creative rot.
  2. Ensure your work space and environment is best suited for productivity. “There is a direct correlation between an increased sphere of comfort and getting what you want”- Timothy Ferriss. Look around your room or your workspace. Does it inspire you? Does it give you motivation? Is it peaceful and soothing? Is it quiet or loud? Is it distracting? Sometimes the hardest thing we do to ourselves is work in a place that we know is going to have¬†us produce mediocre results. Build your ideal workplace and choose your ideal work time. What works for some, may not work for others. So don’t worry if you choose to work at 2am when your spouse and family are asleep. Do what you need to do to get to where you need to be.
  3. Don’t over-work yourself! Take a break, recharge, then continue with a fresh mind. This way, you feel motivated for longer.
  4. Remind yourself what you are trying to accomplish, set goals, set timelines and remember why you are doing it.  This will surely jolt you into action once again!

And don’t worry, it happens to the best of us. You are great at what you do! So take a breather, drink some tea, eat some cake and get back to it! ūüôā

Hope these tips help!

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